How to open your heart to self-love?

 Story Time: How to open your heart to self-love?

Hello my dearest Story Time readers from around the world, how have you guys been? I have been doing great. This month I am turning 30, some of you have been here a long time. How does it feel to watch a Queen grow up? I really have to say that I appreciate each and every one of you. You guys motivate me to keep writing throughout the years. Either way, the Queen's energy keeps upgrading, growing, learning, and boosting. It's called evolving, something you become addicted to when you start opening up your heart to self-love! And because I want each one of you that have become a part of my Story Time tribe to enjoy the benefits of self-love I will be sharing with you today the secrets to opening up your heart to self-love.  Here are 5 ways to open your heart to self-love:

                                       1. It is what it is!

I read in some Indian spiritual books that one must be attached to everything and nothing simultaneously.  Now that was something that spoke to me strongly. I think I read that about 10 years ago. When I barely turned 20, I went over that thought a million times trying to explore the depths of it, as I do with most things that I learn and observe around me. Having applied this philosophy for years in my personal life, I begin to understand and explore a new part of living this philosophy each time I apply it. It's a thrilling journey, that gave me no option but to no longer hide the strength inside of me. I love that certain cultures and legends help us discover, explore and understand the world through a creative lens. In the stories of legends, heroes, villains, love, power, and conquers, we learn to understand humanity and the things that fascinate us. Anyone who has ever met me encountered me or indirectly dealt with me no matter under what name at least knows me, knows that there are certain things I love to say. One of them is, " It is what it is!" When I say that, I like to link it to this philosophy of being attached to everything and nothing at the same time. For me, that means I have been my most authentic being and acted on what I thought was correct at that time with the knowledge available to me. That is good enough for me, I care about the consequences of my actions. But I am also aware that I cannot control everything and that some things are simply meant to be. It is in that knowledge that I found balance. This made me understand who I was and what influenced me in what way. But most importantly it can help you open your eyes to the things you influence. We all hold a unique piece of power, in the end, we will only be remembered for what we did with that power. Standing grounded and accepting this as a part of our reality not only opens up your heart to self-love, it embraces your full self even when you are going through your most painful moments. For me,  "it is what it is!" means we are present as our highest capable energy at that moment and still the universe has divinely guided this moment to be.

                     2. Realize that you are your own ally!

You are not your own enemy, make peace with all different parts of who you are. No matter how diverse you may be. Those who make enemies within themselves can never find peace. Instead, they slowly sink into insanity. That's the spot where dark thoughts can easily sneak up on you. If your heart and mind are not filled with love and respect for who you are and who you strive to be you will easily fall into temptation.  When you realize that you only want what is best for your mind, health, career, future and overall well-being you will start to trust yourself more. That trust will cause you to be more accepting of the self-love habits that you develop. You deserve to feel good about who you are and what you stand for. After all, you are the only person who knows how difficult it was for you to get this far! Every positive thought and action of love you commit to yourself will be welcomed into your heart as an authentic action of self-love. The more you start valuing what you are pouring into your own cup, the better you will shine. When we only pour into other people their cups it becomes really easy to forget the value of what we are pouring into their cups. That makes us forget the reason why others line up to have a taste of who we are and what we have to offer. Get to know what value there is in the goods/services that you are offering to others. 

               3. Know what makes you comfortable!

Knowing what makes you comfortable will make it a lot easier. Let me formulate it in a more passionate way. See it as having to seduce yourself, having to convince yourself that you are worthy of your own time,  attention, and love. Sounds more thrilling, doesn't it. Love yourself the way you would want to be admired and treated. Lack nothing in confidence, step out there into the world, and is open to getting to know the wonderful being living in the vessel. Oh man, I have to be honest and say that I probably have different issues than other girls. Especially being a young woman building a career throughout the years. I don't talk a lot about my career anymore on my blog. But it has been one intense and successful journey with a lot of challenges, and situations where I slipped so bad I almost broke my spine! Not literally, of course, gasp. And still, there are those people that only focus on how I look. Do you know how I deal with that now? I use that to my advantage. I am not responsible for the way you perceive me to be. One thing I do know and that gives me complete faith in who I am and this invisible crown that I wear is that my people love and support me for my actions, my good heart, my work ethic, and the way I never allow us to give up no matter how many obstacles we may face.  Even when we face major challenges on our trips through the Amazon rainforest, I never for one moment let us accept defeat. We can rest, and we can restrategize but it will never be the end. Gives me chills with those vibes. But hey it is what it s either way. I allow myself to extend my skills beyond my comfort zone because I know exactly what I am comfortable with. So I know exactly where I should start challenging myself. When you open up your heart to self-love you are welcoming explorations beyond that what we thought made us comfortable. There are multiple ways you could use this theory, but that is for the next Story Time edition. So make sure that you hop onto that Story Time U.F.O. so you won't miss any of my stories and adventures in the future. Man do I have to catch you up on a lot of adventures! But ever since I am a blogger I did tell you guys that I have an intense life back home.  But I am making more time for my writing as you noticed.  I truly enjoy being able to express myself with you guys throughout the many years that I have been writing on this website. That's why I celebrate what makes me uncomfortable because I can't wait to see what this journey will have in store for me. 

                                       4. Find the Key

Everyone has walls, we all have been hurt, or experienced trauma in some way or another. It's a common factor we share in our humanity. But those walls should not close you in. While trying to protect yourself don't get too locked in. Don't let those walls of protection become your gates of isolation. I am not saying that you should blindly trust each individual you come across.  What I am saying is if you find the key, you can explore the castle grounds. Get to know those walls, what they are made of and what made them exist in the first place. That way you will have in your possession the keys to your own healing. A power no one but you and whatever God you believe in should hold. Explore the world around you and you will enjoy the surprises it might have in store for you. Get to know amazing people from different places who are as curious about this living experience as you are. There goes my inner idealist again, at least she makes this existence more optimistic for me. It's the little things that often leave a great impact. If you enjoy observing chain reactions like I do you know what kind of snowball effect I am referring to. What I am saying to you my dearest Story Time reader, is don't let your anxiety, fears, or other insecurities trap you into thinking that you simply can't be!

                      5. Use your heart to create your reality!

Pay attention to this one, sometimes life takes you to places that you don't expect to be in. That's the fun part of the adventure, especially if you live a super adventurous life like this Queen.  Let me tell you one thing that I do know and that is that I use my heart to create my reality! What does that mean? Calm your horses and let me explain! Listen to your heart, and follow your passion. Let that good voice inside of you lead you toward your purpose. I mentioned the good voice on purpose, just in case some of you'll have those bad voices like the ones they show in Halloween Horror movies. Don't be afraid to listen to that voice inside who knows who you are and what you are meant for. I can be a very logical person, I am as geeky as the next person obsessed with straw hats.  Still, I always follow my heart, and to date, it hasn't led me in the wrong direction. As a matter of fact, most things in my life that went bad were when I didn't listen to that nagging voice inside of me. Sometimes you just got to trust your gut, instinct, intuition, or whatever you want to call it. Now imagine if you used your heart to open up your world to self-love? Before you know it, an entirely new world starts opening up before you. Use all that love you got stored inside of you to do right by yourself. I hope you guys enjoyed this Self-love edition of Story Time.  Until next time, I can't wait to write to you again.😘😘😘