10 important lessons life has taught me.

                   10 important lessons life has taught me!

On my vacation in St Maarten/St Martin

Every day I meet new people in life. People who keep asking the same questions everyone wants an answer to. We all have our own stories and our own struggles, the important thing is how we deal with them. Did you ever have a bad thought in the back of your mind? Well, the first thing is we have to accept that there are no good or bad thoughts. Sometimes we can get a little distracted in our minds. It's okay, I have that as well. But I have learned how to deal with it because sitting down and feeling sad for yourself won't solve the problem. So I made a list, of 10 important lessons life has taught me. I hope it can be as useful for you as it is for me.

                                 1. Is the thought relevant?

 When you feel stressed out about finances or relationships the human mind often wonders. It may seem hard to control all the why's and how comes that go through your mind. I have taught myself to keep control over what's going on in my brain. That way it is easier to stay sane, composed, and of course less stressed. Everyone knows the cause of stress starts with how you feel and how you feel is strongly influenced by what you think. Ask yourself is this thought relevant? Will it solve my problem? If the answer is no, then let your mind think of solutions instead of worrying about unnecessary details. Let's be honest, you don't deserve the extra tension. It simply is not good for your health. And no matter how difficult the situation might be, know that it will pass. The sooner you accept this, the less toxic tension you have to deal with.

          2. Not everyone will like you, but it doesn't matter

 It doesn't matter how much good you do or do not do for others. You will always come across some people who don't like you. Some people judge before even bothering to get to know you. Whether it is because of envy or them not being open-minded enough they have their own ridiculous reasons why they dislike you. Don't let their insecurities become yours.  Know who you are and what you stand for. Don't let someone else opinions define who you are or who you will become. Don't give someone else that kind of power over you.

                                    3. Learn to let go!

People will hurt or disappoint you, it is almost a part of nature. Don't let those bad experiences be the only thing that defines you. Learn the lesson it has taught you and let go. Not for them but for your own inner peace. Life is too short for you to carry along that burden. At the end of the day, it is about what makes you happy as an individual. Bad things happen because the world will always remain in its own balance. Don't let that discourage or break you. Because we must remember that diamonds are formed under pressure.

                    4. Don't be afraid to express yourself

 

Participating in Pride Month Suriname 

As I said before people will judge you no matter what. But that is their problem, not yours! I want you to focus on what makes you happy. In order to do that you have to get to know yourself better. Sometimes we have hidden talents without knowing them. Who would have thought that I would be writing for you now? Well, I certainly didn't see that coming. The only way to get to know yourself better is by expressing yourself. Don't let anyone define you, because you are the only person that knows what is best for you.  Be creative, pick up a hobby or sport. It doesn't matter what it is as long as you are passionate about it and it gives you fulfillment.  There are no limitations that the human mind cannot break through. Inspiration comes from within. Grind your grind, keep focused on your goals, and do you! Dare to try new things and evolve in a healthy way.

          5. Don't adjust to other people their expectations!

This one took me a while to figure out. From a young age, people are raised with expectations from their family members, society, friends, and those around them. This can add pressure to your mental health. And often we don't know better, because we don't want to disappoint our loved ones. I have been there. But as I grew older, I grew tired of trying to please everyone. It is your life and we grow older day by day. What about your own expectations? Do you even know what those are? If tomorrow you were to die, would you rest in peace knowing you didn't get to do all the things you wanted to do for yourself?  Write a bucket list of all the things you wish to do. Be sure to follow it through with a good plan. When resources are limited, a good plan will certainly come in handy.

               6. Treat others with love and understanding

You cannot use gasoline to put out a fire! In other words, have respect for the people around you. Even if they don't treat you right. Show them that you are different, and refuse to stoop to their level because you know your own self-worth. If they keep treating you ill or unkind then they are the problem, not you.  Try with a smile, it might change their reaction or approach. If that doesn't work, don't be afraid to cut out toxic people from your life. Some people just drain your energy, remember not everyone is meant to be a part of your life.

                             7. Your beliefs are your own!

 This means that whatever religion or political view you may have is your own. You know what you chose to believe in. But that doesn't mean that you should be a big bully to everyone that doesn't share the same views! Don't force what you believe is right down other's throats. Yes, we can talk about it, but should we fight over it? At the end of the day, we are all humans trying to get somewhere in life. Nobody has it all figured out. Ask yourself this, if you were sick and in need of a liver donation just to survive would you reject the donor just because he doesn't have the same religion or views as you do? At the end of the day, we often seem to forget that it is about humanity!  Divided we are weak, together we are strong. I know the world isn't made of good people alone. And even if you think you are right, does that put us above anyone else? A truly intelligent person handles the situation with class. Respect is a two-way stream.

                                     8. Be humble!

Be humble to yourself and to others. Let's start with you, don't be so tough on yourself. I know it doesn't always work out the way we want it to! But I strongly believe everything has its reasons. Maybe you were meant for better things. And as the days go by you will find wisdom in your previous failures.  Mistakes give us the opportunity to learn. We aren't perfect so Never look down on other people, because humanity is the golden rule! I picture her as a superhero wearing a golden cape! And even when you reach success stay humble. It isn't a secret that in life we all share the same fate.

                                         9. Travel! 

Visiting the Netherlands

 I haven't been to a lot of places yet but I certainly have been abroad a few times. Now I don't say this because of luxury, food, etc. All though all those things that are advertised seem nice. When I first left home and went on a vacation it was relaxing. Because you get to leave the daily routine for a while and it makes you feel alive. But that is not the most important reason to travel. Travel will give you another perspective on life. People in other countries live different lifestyles. Sometimes it is good to know that there is a whole other world out there. It gives you a broader perspective and it teaches you to value the smaller things. When you travel you get to learn about Nature, this world, and its inhabitants. Some lessons you just can't learn in a classroom.

                               10. Set goals for yourself!

Enjoying the beach in St Martin

Wow, we hit 10 fast, this is the last one on the list. Although I feel like I could go on I won't bore you too much. It is important to set goals for yourself. I know keeping them won't be so easy and sometimes life can take you in another direction. But it is still important to set goals. Because goals give you a direction. See it as a compass. To make it easier to set goals in different categories. Below there are some questions you could ask yourself to help you set goals: Where do I want to be financially in ten years? What do I want to change about my health? What new hobbies do I want to pick up? What books do I want to read? What can I do to take care of myself in a better way? What can I do to feel more relaxed? Those are just some small examples but I am sure you get the point! Feel free to share this post with someone you care about. Let me know in the comments what you think. And don't forget, this blog is all about self-love, food, travel, entertainment, and inspiring people. If you want to keep supporting me visit my Book store to get a good deal on Amazon Kindle or you could check out my Merchandise store for some goodies. Much love and thank you 💓😘😀!